Relationship and cheating
 
This questionnaire is part of a research aimed at understanding behavioural changes in relationship in times of suspected infidelity (cheating). We are looking for volunteers who have personally encountered infidelity either on their partner’s side or been unfaithfull themselves. This questionnaire is completely anonymous and we don’t collect any personal data (e.g. name, address etc.) where you could be identified. All questions are general questions.

1. Have you ever cheated on your partner or any of your previous partners?

2. Have any of your partners (current or previous) ever cheated on you? *

3. What was the type of cheating? Please, feel free to select more than one if two or more applies to your case. *

4. What is your gender? *

5. What gender was the partner that cheated on you ? *

Important note: In the following questions,  you will be asked to select and rank some behavioural signs. The selection and the ranking will be based on who cheated.  if the partner  who cheated is a male, answer only male related questions (questions 7). If the person who cheated is  a woman, answer only female related questions (questions 6). 

6. Women signs: the following are common behavioral signs that shows when a woman is cheating on her partner or about to cheat. Based on your experience, which of the following signs became evident?. Please, rank them according to how  clear or unclear the signs were, that made you suspicious that she was cheating on you on a scale of 1 to 5; . where 1 is "not very strong"  and  5 is "very strong".
1:Not very strong
2:Not strong
3:Quite strong
4:Strong
5:Very strong
6. Does not apply to my case
Sign 1: You had a gut feeling that she is/was cheating
Sign 2: Sudden change in her natural or baseline behavior.
Sign 3: Sex was less frequent or poor (e.g started giving excuses not to have sex)
Sign 4: Less Intimacy: she no longer showed affection (e.g compared to previous, you used to hug, kiss or cuddle more often, but it suddenly stopped).
Sign 5: Sex increased or she wanted to try new things which was unusual for her.
Sign 6: Physical distance: she had somewhere to be other than with you.
Sign 7: Acting more private: little vague with details, for example, she did not tell where she was going.
Sign 8: Acting more private on her phone and computer: overly secretive with her phone and computer which was unusual for her.
Sign 9: Sneaky phone calls: didn’t like answering phone calls in your presence or left room to answer phone calls.
Sign 10: She suddenly had new "Friends" whom you hadn’t met.
Sign 11: She started talking about a male co-worker or a friend a lot.
Sign 12: She started accusing you of cheating.
Sign 13: Relationship dissatisfaction: she dropped hints that she was not happy in the relationship.
Sign 14: High sex drive which made her look sex elsewhere.
Sign 15: Need space: She told her husband or boyfriend that she needed more space without any reason.
Sign 16: Always wanted to know your every move: For example, she constantly wanted to know what time you are coming from work or how many hours you are going to spend somewhere.
Sign 17: Someone told you that she is cheating on you.
Sign 18: Nagging more than usually.
Sign 19: Working longer hours in an unusual pattern.
Sign 20: Lost interest in arguing: stopped caring.
Sign 21: Sudden change in appearance. For example, took extra care of her looks, took long to get ready, new hairstyle, clothes or dieting and exercise etc.

7. Men signs: the following are common behavioral signs that shows when a man is cheating on her partner or about to cheat. Based on your experience, which of the following signs became evident?. Please, rank them according to how  clear or unclear the signs were, that made you suspicious that he was cheating on you on a scale of 1 to 5; . where 1 is "not very strong"   and  5 is "very strong sign" . 
1:Not very strong
2:Not strong
3:Quite strong
4:Strong
5:Very strong
6. Does not apply to my case
Sign 1: You had a gut feeling that he is/was cheating
Sign 2: Deviated from his natural or baseline pattern.
Sign 3: He was very secretive about his phone and/or did not want you to touch his phone.
Sign 4: He was spending unusually much time with his phone.
Sign 5: He was very secretive about his computer.
Sign 6: Made excuses to stay out but there was little noticeable ”holes” in his story.
Sign 7: His story didn’t add up but he became defensive if you questioned him.
Sign 8: Lack of physical closeness compared to earlier.
Sign 9: High sex drive which made him look sex elsewhere..
Sign 10: He smelled different.
Sign 11: He had mood swings with no apparent reason.
Sign 12: He cut off all PDA (public display of affection).
Sign 13: His interests changed suddenly (e.g music, movie etc)
Sign 14: He couldn’t explain his expenses (especially when earlier both of you were open with your expenses).
Sign 15: He started paying extra attention to his hygiene compared to his normal behaviour, (and your gut feeling told you that this change was not for you)
Sign 16: Appearance: he wanted to look good for no apparent reason.
Sign 17: He started to act distant and started avoiding intimacy with you.
Sign 18: Fighting a lot about the same topic over and over again. For example, he started complaining about your appearance.
Sign 19: He lied about talking to friends that are women. And once you noticed it, he changed girl names to guy names in his phone
Sign 20: Started acting distant: He no longer cared about the things he earlier used to fight with you, or did not pay attention to you.
Sign 21: Guilty conscious: started to give you more affection than he earlier used to.
Sign 22: New ideas in the bedroom which you hadn’t tried before.
Sign 23: After confronting him about cheating, his reaction was "who told you?" instead of saying that he hasn’t been cheating
Sign 24: Your friends or/and family approached you to tell that this guy is not good for you or told you that he is cheating.
Sign 25: Relationship dissatisfaction: Not happy in his current relationship

8. What is your age?

9. What is your marital status

10. Please, what is your nationality? *

11. Where did you see this survey link?

12. Anything else you want to tell us?

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